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When Choosing Yourself Means Distancing Yourself From Family | For Mannerless Women

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What happens when choosing yourself means creating distance from the people who raised you? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with psychologist Ivanna Waweru for an honest conversation about family, boundaries, identity and going no-contact.Ivanna shares her own experience of growing up in a chaotic and critical family environment, the different versions of herself she became in order to survive it, and the years she spent trying to repair her relationship with her mother before eventually deciding to go no-contact. Together, Adelle and Ivanna unpack why setting boundaries in African families can be particularly difficult, the difference between self-confidence and self-worth, the grief and relief that can coexist after going no-contact, learning to express anger, breaking inherited patterns and rediscovering who you are outside of the roles your family gave you. They also explore what happens after you create that distance: taking responsibility for your own life, building new support systems, creating new traditions and slowly giving yourself permission to want more including softness, ease and good things. CONNECT WITH IVANNA WAWERU Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/ivannawaweru Ivanna Waweru Digital Products Selar Shop: https://selar.com/m/ivanna-waweru1 Email: ivannatheraputics@gmail.com JOIN THE LEGALLY CLUELESS AFRICA COMMUNITY Website: https://legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LegallyCluelessAfrica Subscribe to our newsletter: https://legallycluelessafrica.com Share this episode with a Mannerless or almost-Mannerless Woman in your life. #ForMannerlessWomen #LegallyClueless #FamilyBoundaries #NoContact #SelfWorth #AfricanWomen #Healing

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