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He Called It Love. It Was Coercive Control PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 399

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In the concluding part of Makena's story, a terrifying suspicion becomes reality when she confronts her partner about accessing her private conversations and information on her phone. What follows is a deeply personal account of digital surveillance, emotional abuse and coercive control, and the lasting impact of having your privacy, independence and sense of safety violated by someone you trusted. Makena reflects on the warning signs she struggled to recognise, how her relationship gradually isolated her from the people she loved, and what it took to begin reclaiming her freedom.Her story reminds us that abuse doesn't have to be physical to be devastating, and control is not love.🎧 Catch Part 1 of Makena's story in Episode 398. RESOURCES: UNDERSTANDING COERCIVE CONTROL & GETTING SUPPORT: Coercive control is a pattern of abusive behaviour designed to intimidate, isolate, monitor or restrict another person's freedom and independence.If you or someone you know is experiencing coercive control or other forms of abuse, the following organisations may be able to offer support: UsikimyeSupport and advocacy for survivors of gender-based violence.https://www.usikimye.org Healthcare Assistance Kenya (HAK)National Gender-Based Violence Hotline.Call: 1195Gender Violence Recovery Centre (GVRC)Medical, psychosocial and other support services for survivors of gender-based violence.https://gvrc.co.ke Family Health International (FHI)Psychosocial support for survivors of violence. Contact the organisation to establish which services and referral programmes are currently available.Centre for Rights Education and Awareness (CREAW)Legal assistance, advocacy and support for survivors of gender-based violence.Toll-free: 0800-720-186If you suspect someone is monitoring your phone or online activity, consider seeking help using a device they cannot access. MORE FROM LEGALLY CLUELESS AFRICA Mid Week Tease: When We Confuse Control for Love Last week, Adelle unpacked how controlling behaviours can be mistaken for expressions of love, how to recognise unhealthy relationship patterns, and why love should never cost you your freedom. Listen to the episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0zHpswyKbweoPf6QdYEWEM?si=hStXBVZ6Q_-ccW053v13EA&utm_source=whatsapp SHARE YOUR STORY Have a story you'd like to share on the Legally Clueless podcast?https://forms.gle/JMrQD55jcrazKFKX7 WATCH FOR MANNERLESS WOMEN Conversations about healing, self-worth, relationships and becoming shame-free women.https://www.youtube.com/@LegallyCluelessAfrica CONNECT WITH US Website: https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/legallycluelessafrica YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LegallyCluelessAfrica New episodes of Legally Clueless every Monday.I truly appreciate you, and I know you have everything it takes to heal.

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