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Is It Love Or Are You Being Controlled? | Mid Week Tease

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What happens when control doesn’t actually feel like control? Sometimes it sounds like, “I just worry about you.” Sometimes jealousy feels like proof that someone really cares. Sometimes constantly checking in feels like closeness. And sometimes we slowly begin changing how we dress, who we see, where we go and what we say just to keep the peace. Inspired by Makena’s story on Legally Clueless, this week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks how easily control can be mistaken for love in romantic relationships and why one of the most revealing questions we can ask is: What happens when I say no? In this episode, we talk about: Why jealousy and possessiveness can sometimes feel romanticThe difference between care, consideration and controlWhat your partner’s response to “no” can revealHow we can slowly start policing ourselves to keep the peaceThe difference between privacy and secrecy in relationshipsWhy boundaries and control are not the same thingHow to notice when your world is becoming smaller inside a relationshipWhy “But they love me” isn’t always enoughThe importance of maintaining your autonomy while loving someoneAnd perhaps the biggest question of all:Can you be fully yourself while being loved by this person? Join the Legally Clueless community: https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com Follow Legally Clueless Africa: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@legallycluelessafrica

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